"So... Yesterday was Sunday. Nothing earth shattering happened - it was much like any other Sunday, beginning with church and spending the rest of the day together as a family, but there's one little thing that makes me smile on Sundays. Scott wears his wedding ring. Scott and I have been married for over 13 years now. While I wear my wedding ring every day, Scott's ring has spent the majority of those days sitting on a shelf on our dresser. Most people would probably think, "Doesn't that bother you that he doesn't wear a wedding ring?" or "Why doesn't your husband wear a wedding ring - does he not want people to know he's married?"
I totally thought I knew how to wrap up that post and completely knew where I was headed with it...but I finally finished it today and it didn't end at all how I'd expected!
When Scott proposed to me, I was blissfully blindsided - We were 21 years old and it was our 4th anniversary dating. We went out to eat in Mankato and stopped at Spring Lake Park in North Mankato - a place we often went past and said we should stop some day. We are really just overgrown children (and always have been) so we went off to play on the playground equipment - after a bit I went down a twisty slide and was met by Scott...on one knee...holding a ring...asking me to marry him. Awww!!! Fast forward a few months, I wanted to do something special for him after I had picked out his wedding ring, so I found a big box, got a BUNCH of helium balloons, and tied his ring to them and stuffed them in the box. Ta Da! When he opened the box his ring floated up in the air for him to see - guys shouldn't always get the shaft on the surprise element and have to do all the work! 😉
Anywho, so I learned shortly after we got married that Scott would not be able to safetly wear his wedding ring on a daily basis. He wore his ring out to the farm one day and Grandpa Blackstad told him he never wanted to see that ring on his finger at the farm again - it is just too dangerous. It took a bit for me to adjust to that line of thinking - he was farming - it could get caught in implements he's fixing, he was a livestock hauler - it could get caught while he's climbing up and down the side of the trailer, he was a mechanic - it could get caught working in an engine and he'd lose his finger - I was ok with his wedding ring living on our dresser during the week. Scott's safety and keeping all his fingers comes first! I know we're married, he knows we're married, that's all that truly matters.
Scott's wedding ring
Fast forward to Christmas 2016 - I was looking for presents on one of my favorite websites, The Grommet, that launches new, inovative products and helps them grow. I happened to run across a really cool ring while I was looking at jewelry. The awesome thing about this ring is that it is made of silicone and has grooves on the inside so it breathes. If it gets stuck somewhere it will pull off or rip and save his finger. It also has a lifetime warranty - double bonus - it only cost 30 bucks! I thought about getting Scott one for Christmas, but I second guessed myself thinking he'd find it weird or insignificant compared to wearing his wedding ring. After Christmas I mentioned it to him and was totally surprised when he brought it up a few weeks later and said it was worth looking into...
Yesterday Scott's ring came and I went over to his desk after lunch to give it to him. We didn't say much, but it put a huge smile on his face! Things can change in 14 years. I take forgranted every day being able to wear my wedding ring. Scott's jobs have changed A LOT, but it's still is not practical (or safe) for him to wear a wedding ring on a daily basis, and I'm certain if he'd try and take it to work and put it on and off when it was appropriate, his ring would totally be lost! I don't think either of us expected the emotions that Scott finally having a "safe" ring he can wear during the week would produce....he's like a newlywed, flashing his ring at me every chance he gets - but that's just it - ME - it matters to Scott and me - we still don't care if the rest of the world knows we're married...it's just a ring, but it's awesome for him to finally have that constant visual reminder that I'm just as wrapped around his finger now as I was when we were 17. 💗
Due to availability in size and color through The Grommet, I ended up ordering directly from the company, Groove Life.
Comes in a cool storage container
Scott's work wedding ring
The Mr. to my Mrs.
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